My story

I didn't start out
knowing any of this.

From feeling lonely, rejected and stuck in my own head, to the work I do today. The honest version.

Gin smiling with his arms crossed in front of a colourful wall
Today, 2026.
Chapter 01

The person behind Gin Inner Work

My name is Jinesh Gin, better known as Gin.

I'm Danish and Sri Lankan. I'm Tamil, and Tamil is the language I grew up speaking at home.

I'm not a therapist and I'm not a guru. I'm someone who spent a lot of years feeling lonely, rejected and stuck in my own head, and who slowly found a way through it.

This page is the honest version of how that happened.

Gin as a teenager in a blue hoodie, school photo
Me as a teenager.
Chapter 02

Where it all began

I grew up in a small city in Denmark.

Home didn't always feel safe, and I grew up believing I wasn't really worth loving.

Around 16 or 17, I was in pain. I didn't have the words for it then. I just knew something inside didn't feel right, and I didn't know how to talk about it with anyone.

So I did what a lot of us do. I kept it inside and tried to look fine.

And I was good at it. I was the funny one. Everyone said I was so much fun. Everyone laughed.

But I wasn't fine. I was performing. Being funny was a way of being liked without being known.

"Being funny can be a way of being liked without being known."
A younger Gin in a black suit and tie, 2016
2016. Suit and tie, doing it right.
Chapter 03

Doing what I was supposed to do

Around 2016 we moved to the capital, and I started a new education. I studied engineering for about six years, and then I had two corporate jobs.

On paper it looked good. A solid salary. A clear path.

But I wasn't staying because I loved it. I was staying because I was scared. Scared that if I let go of the safe job, everything would fall apart.

Gin in a pink party hat holding a drink, other faces blurred
Out every weekend. The life of the party.
Chapter 04

The years I numbed myself

On the outside I was having the time of my life. Parties. Drinks. Always the guy making everyone laugh.

On the inside I was running. Alcohol and other ways to escape helped me not feel what was underneath, at least for a few hours.

I wasn't living. I was escaping. And the next morning, everything I tried to drown was still there.

"I wasn't living. I was escaping."
Gin in a nightclub booth, another guest's face blurred
Always out. Never really there.
A beer and a table full of things to escape with
Another night, another way to escape.
Gin alone at night, tired
And then, alone again.
Gin drinking from a bottle on a crowded dance floor, other faces blurred
Party again. Drinking way too much. She handed me water.
Gin's tired face late at night
Completely gone. Nobody home.
Gin in a blue shirt, looking serious, 2020
Dressed up. Empty inside. The saddest I have ever been.
Gin in sunglasses next to a woman in a bar, her eyes covered
I was chasing her validation.
Gin alone on an empty street at night
5 a.m. An empty street. Nobody to call. Nobody who knew.
Gin with two friends whose faces are covered by paper smileys
Totally unaware of toxic friendships.
Gin skydiving over the coast at Airlie Beach, Australia
Skydiving at Airlie Beach, Australia, 2018.
Chapter 05

Finding my own way

Then I started moving. I lived in Australia. Later I lived in Istanbul. I travelled through Asia, Africa and South America.

Some of the highest highs of my life happened out there. I jumped out of a plane. I made friends I'll never forget.

But travelling didn't fix what was inside. Wherever I went, I took myself with me.

"Wherever I went, I took myself with me."
Gin smiling with his eyes closed and hands together
Back to myself.
Chapter 06

The journey inward

After all those years of going out and chasing validation, something shifted.

I think God helped me. He put the right people in my way. Deep down, I just wanted to be around the best people.

And I worked on myself. Relentlessly. Not a quick fix. Years of it.

That led me to inner work. Later to NLP and shadow work. Shadow work became my go-to tool. It's what really helped me shed the old trauma.

I met the younger version of me who was still hurting, and I listened to him. I started noticing my triggers instead of running from them. I learned to breathe through what I used to avoid.

Slowly, I started showing up differently. With friends. With women. With my family. With myself.

Gin laughing at the camera in a light blue shirt
Me, now.
Chapter 07

The other side

Today I'm happier than I have ever been. I feel blessed.

I have friends. Real ones. And making new friends doesn't scare me anymore. It just feels natural.

I'm around the right people now. People who see me, not the version I used to perform.

And for the first time, I could feel a woman's love. Not chasing it. Not performing for it. Just feeling it, and letting it in.

I'm not performing anymore. I'm just me. And it turns out that's enough.

"I'm not performing anymore. I'm just me."
Gin smiling cheek to cheek with a woman, her face blurred
Finally, I could feel love. Finally, I could feel loved.
Gin and two friends smiling under the painted ceiling of the Markthal in Rotterdam
New friends, new places.
Gin and a circle of friends laughing down at the camera
From an empty street at 5 a.m. to this. Saying yes to life.
Gin holding a handwritten note: Whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it and it will be yours
A note I keep close.
Chapter 08

Why I created Gin Inner Work

I left engineering and a solid salary to do this. It was scary, and it still is sometimes.

But I kept meeting people who felt exactly like I used to. Lonely, even around others. Afraid of rejection. Smart enough to understand their patterns, but still stuck in them.

I wanted to give them what I needed back then: someone who doesn't judge, who has been there, and who can guide them through it step by step.

My purpose is simple: to help heal the inner disconnection behind loneliness.

"Heal the inner disconnection behind loneliness."
Gin on a video coaching call with a client who is laughing
A coaching call. This is the part I love.
Chapter 09

Where I am today

Today I get to do what I wish someone had done for me: guide people through it.

I work one to one with men and women from all over the world, online, in English or Danish. I've helped more than 150 people so far.

My favourite moment is when someone laughs on a call, really laughs, a few weeks after they couldn't stop overthinking. That's when I know the work is landing.

I still have hard days. I still get triggered. The difference is that I know what to do with it now.

I make videos about the moments most people never talk about, because I believe talking about them is where it starts.

I'm not here to fix anyone. I'm here to walk next to you while you find your way back to yourself, and towards the life and the connections you actually want.

If you've read this far, maybe some of it sounds familiar.

"From surviving to guiding others."

If any of this feels familiar, you don't have to figure it out alone.

Start with a free 30-minute call. Just a conversation about where you are and what feels stuck. In English or Danish.

Book a free 30-minute call Or write to me first

With care,
Gin

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